Blind-dating can be exciting and fun. But only if you know someone who knows the guy well enough to be able to vouch for his character. That’s the bottom line. Otherwise it’s a game of Russian roulette.
You may think that it’s enough to have a friend accompany you when you meet the guy for the first time. You’ll suss him out before you trust yourself alone with him on a date. That’s also a big no, no. Some of the most dangerous men are the most disarmingly smooth.
People meeting for the first time usually are on their best behaviour, and it’s easy to be taken in. But you’re nobody’s fool, right? He seems like a great guy but you won’t take chances. You’ll go on one date with the guy and check out his behaviour. Anything amiss and you’ll drop him like the proverbial hot potato.
Is that right? Well just you wait and see. It doesn’t work like that. That guy has been there before and knows the ropes. He rocks up with flowers, the perfect gentleman, and the first date goes like a dream come true.
You date again. And again. Now you and he are an item. You can’t believe the wonderful turn your life has taken. Too starry eyed to notice little discrepancies in his behaviour — his short temper with other people, angry flare-ups over little things — you continue to live in blissful ignorance of the cataclysm that is waiting in the wings.
Then one day you come down to earth with a thud. You are the object of his latest temper tantrum. His fists fly your way. Your face in the mirror, staring back at you, is testimony to the turn of events.
Later he is full of remorse, the apologies flow as thick and fast as the fists that beat a tattoo on your face. You forgive him. The relationship splutters on for a while but inevitably the day arrives when you want out.
Only to find he’s a remora fish that you can’t shake loose.
He hounds you, stalks you everywhere you go; even pops up from behind the back seat of your car while you’re driving. If he can’t have you, he says, nobody else ever will.
You better believe it, he’s not kidding.
The best way to get out of a jam like that is not to get into it in the first place.
On the prowl out there, are all kinds of weirdos; they use the internet to home in on the women they prey upon. Why put yourself in harm’s way?
One young woman — in the news now for the worst reason imaginable — has cause to reflect upon the impulse that led her to accept a strange man’s invitation to meet. Her decision led to events that ineradicably changed her life.
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